The distributor cap should have a mark (c), this is for the #1. The next one going clockwise is #3, then #4 and then #2 (this should end up next to the #1, the counter-clockwise side. On the engine the #1 is front of engine, (drive belts end) followed by 2, 3, and 4. Connect the wires, matching these numbers. The firing order is 1 3 4 2. Check out this site, it's very good.
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